Your Choice When a woman discovers she is pregnant, her life will never be the same again, no matter what choice she makes. And when the pregnancy is unplanned, deciding what to do can be very difficult and scary. Whether you feel happy about your pregnancy or it caught you by surprise, you now have a big decision to make. Keeping perspective at this time is critical, but the most important thing to remember is that: you do have choices and you are not alone. Pregnancy brings with it many physical and emotional changes and when you are not sure.